Oct 30

Doing Your Husband Good, Day 4

2008 at 3:28 pm   |   by Nicole Whitacre Filed under Marriage

More creative ideas from some excellent wives…


Stockxpertcom_id593624_jpg_3bdbccdf My husband works evenings and gets off work at 11pm. I have all the kids toys picked up, kitchen cleaned, sink wiped out, coffee ready for morning (he hates to have to make coffee in the morning), and I leave on some accent lighting so that he feels the calm, welcoming, serenity of home even if it’s after the day is done and we’re all in bed.

When he comes home and I’m already asleep (I really try to stay up for him though), I sometimes leave little love notes on his pillow for him to find when he comes to bed.

I am always complementing his physique and telling him how handsome I think he is.

I pray for him and sometimes I tell him when I’m praying for him so that he knows.

Last night I asked my husband what I do to do him good. He responded by telling me that I spend our money very wisely. I had never thought that was a way of doing him good, but I’m so glad that he has told me. I would have never thought that spending the money that he works so hard for daily, in a wise fashion, was doing him good. I praise God for such a godly husband!



Stockxpertcom_id593624_jpg_3bdbccdfOne way I try to do my husband good is to have a snack plate made for him every so often when he arrives home from work. It is usually simple…some sandwich meat rolled up, a few crackers, some cheese slices, and his favorite, pickled okra. I have a drink waiting for him as well, like a glass of iced tea. I have it waiting for him in our bedroom, so it is a nice surprise when he goes in there. He has mentioned that he really appreciates it and shows him that I understand his need to have a few minutes at the end of the day to regroup before being “on” with me and the kids.



My husband loves things neat and tidy, which is a struggle for me with 3 very small children. I asked him to call when he’s about 15 minutes from home and we have a fun “get ready for daddy” clean up session! It really doesn’t take that much effort, and the reward of a peaceful living room and pleasing my husband is great.



Stockxpertcom_id593624_jpg_3bdbccdfEvery morning (at least I try - depending on how the night with the kiddos goes…) I send him an email at work. I try to get it to him before he is able to sign on to this computer. It has the same subject line each time (an acronym code that I had engraved on his wedding ring) and in it I encourage him, thank him for all that he does for our family, let him know that the boys and I are praying for him, etc and that we can’t wait to see him. I also greet him with something beautiful about the morning drive in.

He LOVES chocolate chip cookies and milk. Sometimes I make them as a surprise, and other times I make time if he asks me to. Either way, when they are finished baking and slightly cooled, I bring him 4 cookies on a plate with a big glass of milk to dunk them in. Always makes him smile!

DH is a student at SBTS. He really gets excited by his classes, so I whenever he gets home I ask him to tell me about the class and he just goes on and on and on about them. He’s especially excited that I’m interested in what he’s learning - esp. when I ask questions of him about something he or the prof. said.



Stockxpertcom_id593624_jpg_3bdbccdfAnytime I ask my husband what he would like for his birthday or Christmas or how I could serve him, the answer is always the same. Some form of physical intimacy is always at the top of his list. (It’s his favorite thing to do and it doesn’t cost a thing!) In fact, if I asked him how I could “do him good” he would quickly turn that into a very funny sexual innuendo.

So one Valentine’s Day I made him a little coupon book. Each coupon had a different, creative, intimate experience. Of course the coupons weren’t necessary because it is a part of our daily lives, but he loved the idea that I was thinking along the same lines that he was and was taking creative initiative. If I think about it, invest time, thought, and energy into it and add a little creativity to it he is very blessed.

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Stockxpertcom_id593624_jpg_3bdbccdfThe idea is to let my husband know the many reasons that I love or appreciate him. I decorated a little box that sits on his desk at work. It says “How do I love you?” on the top. Then, about once a week, I put a little piece of paper (cute or plain) into his lunch with a short description of one way that I love or appreciate him. His box slowly fills up and he can look at them whenever he needs some encouragement during his workday! I’ve found that it’s helpful to keep track of what I’ve already given him so that I don’t repeat things.