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Sep 29

God Does Not Fail You

2011 at 6:15 pm   |   by Nicole Whitacre Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Suffering

“Why yield to gloomy anticipations? Who told you that the night would never end in day?.... Who told you that the winter of your discontent would proceed from frost to frost, from snow and ice and hail to deeper snow and yet more heavy tempest of despair? Don’t you know that day follows night, that flood comes after ebb, that spring and summer succeed winter? Be full of hope! Hope forever! For God does not fail you. Do you know that God loves you in the midst of all this?.... You will yet, midst the splendors of eternity, forget the trials of time, or only remember them to bless the God who led you through them and works your lasting good by them. Come, sing in the midst of tribulation. Rejoice even while passing through the furnace. Cause the desert to ring with your exulting joys, for these light afflictions will soon be over, and then forever with the Lord, your bliss shall never wane.”

~Charles Spurgeon, Morning & Evening revised and edited by Alistair Begg, July 21, evening.

Sep 28

Don’t Waste Your Trial

2011 at 5:52 pm   |   by Carolyn Mahaney Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Suffering

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” James 1:2-4

Another insight I’ve gleaned in my study of James 1:2-8 is from the phrase “And let steadfastness have its full effect…” This command carries an implication, and the implication is that it is possible to walk through a trial and not profit in the way that God intends. We can actually miss out on the “full effect” God has designed for that trial. What a horrific thought!

Trials are allowed by God for a purpose. They are hard, sometimes excruciatingly so, but they produce good fruit if—and only if—we let steadfastness have its full effect. That’s why John Piper urges people “Don’t Waste Your Trial”: because it is possible to waste it.

“James is bringing in a word of caution.” comments Alec Motyer on this verse:

“A believer might endure for a while, and then tire of enduring. In this case the desired growth to maturity is halted mid-way. There has to be a persistency of enduring: Steadfastness must have its full effect…. The road is, therefore, hard and long, and the task is unremitting: to endure the first onset of the startling, unexpected trial, and to endure again while it persists, and then to go on enduring…. We are thus called to a persistent endurance. But this hard road has a glorious destination for us: that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. The Message of James, p.32.

So how do we keep from wasting our trial? We persist in enduring. No matter how long the road. No matter how numerous the setbacks. No matter how deep the disappointment. We must keep before us that glorious destination: “perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” And having done all, we must simply stand.

Sep 21

Whatever My God Ordains

2011 at 3:34 pm   |   by Janelle Bradshaw Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Suffering

On our dining room wall hangs a four by six foot chalkboard. Come over some time and see, you can’t miss it. I change it up every so often with a Scripture or quote or fun seasonal decor. But I have a feeling that the quote I put up there recently isn’t coming down any time soon. I hope it brings comfort to your soul as it does mine every time I sneak into the dining room for a peek.

Whatever my God ordains is right,
Here shall my stand be taken;
Though sorrow, or need, or death be mine,
Yet I am not forsaken,
My Father’s care circles me there,
He holds me that I shall not fall,
And so to Him I leave it all.

~Samuel Rodigast

Sep 20

“Count it All Joy”

2011 at 4:58 pm   |   by Carolyn Mahaney Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Joy | Suffering

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.” James 1:2-8 To be honest, these haven’t been the first verses I’ve run to in the midst of this trial. “Count it all joy.” Really?! But over time, God has graciously drawn me to this passage and taught me encouraging, faith-building lessons as I have sought to study and plunge its depths. One sermon that has helped me explore this passage is by Russell Moore from his series on James, “Life in the Mist”. I’ve listened to it several times and highly recommend it as an insightful introduction to this passage of Scripture. Whether or not you are in a trial, we all need wisdom; and thanks be to God, He promises to give generously to all, without reproach!

Sep 19

My Savior’s Prayers

2011 at 10:16 pm   |   by Carolyn Mahaney Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Suffering

There have been certain times during this trial when my prayers were reduced to nothing more than cries for help throughout the day. “Lord, have mercy on us.” “Lord, we need your grace.” “Lord, please help.” On these days I sometimes felt guilty that my prayers lacked substance. Then I remembered the truth of Christ’s prayers for me:

“It is a consoling thought that Christ is praying for us, even when we are negligent in our prayer life; that He is presenting to the Father those spiritual needs which were not present to our minds and which we often neglect to include in our prayers; and that He prays for our protection against the dangers of which we are not even conscious, and against the enemies which threaten us, though we do not notice it. He is praying that our faith may not cease, and that we may come out victoriously in the end.”
Louis Berkhof, Systematic Theology, p.403.

“If I could hear Christ praying for me in the next room, I would not fear a million enemies. Yet distance makes no difference. He is praying for me.”

Robert Murray M’Cheyne, Robert Murray M’Cheyne p.179.

(From a post by Justin Taylor)

What enormous comfort and courage poured into my soul when I remembered my Savior’s prayers!

Sep 16

Great Trials, Great Saints

2011 at 3:22 pm   |   by Carolyn Mahaney Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Suffering

In these past few months, I have discovered a helpful exercise for the soul: studying the lives of great saints. These men and women often had great trials, and when I read about their trials it puts my own in proper perspective. Martyn Lloyd-Jones makes this point in the book Faith on Trial:

“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man.” 1 Co. 10:13

“Where the devil gets us is just here. He persuades us that nobody has ever had this trial before: no one has ever had a problem like mine, no one else has been dealt with like this. But Paul says, ‘There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man,’ and the moment you remember even that much, you feel better. All God’s people know something about this: we are such strange creatures, and sin has had a strange effect upon us. We are always helped in our suffering by hearing that somebody else is suffering too!.... Some of the greatest saints that have ever adorned the life of the Church have experienced trials and troubles and tribulations which cause our little problems to pale into insignificance.” Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Faith on Trial, pp. 56-57

So let me encourage you, sometime soon, to read a biography of a godly man or woman. Or, if you don’t have time to read, listen to John Piper’s biographical sermons online. For me, this spiritual exercise has caused my “little problems to pale into insignificance.”

Sep 15

How to Bear Injuries

2011 at 10:18 pm   |   by Carolyn Mahaney Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Suffering

“They that love God as they ought, will have such a sense of his wonderful long-suffering toward them under the many injuries they have offered to him, that it will seem to them but a small thing to bear with the injuries that have been offered to them by their fellow-men.”

~Jonathan Edwards, Charity and Its Fruits, p.78.

Sep 1

“Blessed in My Mourning”

2011 at 6:11 pm   |   by Nicole Whitacre Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Suffering

When I was a little girl I would often stay late with my dad after church. I would run the halls and play hide and seek with my friends. But after they went home and a few people were still waiting to talk to my dad, I would stand quietly by his side.

I don’t remember what people said to my dad during those after-church conversations, but I do remember something my dad would say. When speaking to people in the midst of extreme suffering, who were nevertheless trusting God and clinging to His promises, Dad would look them in the eye and tell them how much he respected them. Then he would remind them that their trust in God was a pronounced and powerful evidence of grace in their lives.

When I read this post by Jordan Rice this morning, I remembered what my dad would say and I thought “This is amazing grace, indeed.”

Two years ago today (Aug. 22nd), God gave me a faith-filled, gorgeous, brilliant woman as my wife. Danielle. A virgin on our wedding night and the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I was literally the happiest guy in the world and at that time 2 years ago, I never could have imagined in a million years that I’d be where I am today. Instead of a vacation or a celebratory dinner to celebrate our anniversary, I’m on my way to the cemetery to mourn my wife’s passing.

But today I’m blessed in my mourning. No, this isn’t some denial of the pain associated with grief, because truth be told today is one of the worst and most painful moments I’ve ever lived through. Losing Danielle is a pain so deep and enduring, I would have preferred having my arms ripped off. Nevertheless, faith and pain can and do co-exist very nicely.

May God give us all His grace to bless Him in our mourning.

HT: Thabiti Anyabwile

Aug 29

A Blessed Calm

2011 at 10:54 am   |   by Nicole Whitacre Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Suffering

“By faith we will slip our cable for another day’s cruise, and sail forth with Jesus into a sea of tribulation. Winds and waves will not spare us, but they all obey Him; and, therefore, whatever squalls may occur without, faith shall feel a blessed calm within. He is ever in the centre of the weather-beaten company: let us rejoice in Him. His vessel has reached the haven, and so shall ours.” ~Charles Spurgeon

Aug 24

Solid Ground

2011 at 2:46 pm   |   by Carolyn Mahaney Filed under Biblical Womanhood | Suffering

After our little earthquake yesterday, a friend from Arizona texted me:

“As if your world needed anymore shaking! Are you OK?”

When I assured her that we were all fine, she replied…

“Good to be secure on the rock of Christ!...He is the only solid ground. Love you!”

Amen.