May 8

How to Find the Happy in “Happy Mother’s Day”

2014 at 9:34 am   |   by Carolyn Mahaney

Do you feel as if you’ve lost the “happy” in “Happy Mother’s Day”?

Maybe you find Mother’s Day disappointing. It seems like all your mom friends on Facebook get showered with more surprises, gifts, and love than you. Your husband and kids don’t seem to make much effort.

Maybe Mother’s Day brings to the surface feelings of guilt and failure. You see so many ways you need to grow, so many ways you fall short. You never seem to do it right. You would feel happier if we could just skip this holiday.

Maybe you feel grumpy about Mother’s Day. Instead of being pampered and waited on, you have to work harder than usual preparing a special meal for your mother-in-law.

Maybe Mother’s Day makes you feel more unhappy than happy.

But think again, because a “Happy Mother’s Day” is so much more than how you feel on the day in question.

That’s because “happiness” is so much more than a feeling. Happiness in Scripture means “blessedness.” The mom who is saved by grace can feel happy this Mother’s Day because she is happy. She is blessed. Consider:

By grace, your present Mother’s Day troubles—whether they be the stress of preparing Mother’s Day dinner or the despair over a wayward child, or the weariness of caring for small children—are all working for your good and the glory of Christ (Rom 8:28).

By grace, your past mothering failures—your impatience and your anger, your selfishness and grumbling—are all covered by the blood of Jesus Christ. He is at work redeeming our failures, working through our weakness and inadequacy for the good of our children (2 Cor. 12:10).

By grace, your future mothering hopes are not ultimately dependent upon your performance. It is the work of God from start to finish. And his work is gives us strength for our work. We can throw off the sin and the regret that so easily entangle and run our mothering race with perseverance knowing that he is the one who sustains us and makes us “fruitful in every good work” (Col 1:10).

Our happiness this Mother’s Day is not ultimately found in the appreciation we receive from our family or in our mothering performance, but in God—who he is, what he has done, what he is doing, and what he plans to do through our mothering. This is what it means to be blessed. To be truly happy.

And this is why, even though I do not know you—your present circumstances or feelings—I can confidently wish you a Happy Mother’s Day!

“Her children rise up and call her ‘happy’; her husband also, and he praises her.” Prov. 31:28