Recently I spent some time with another mom. And you know what? Surprise, surprise, she’s another Margie. This woman is a better mom than me, in a lot of ways. You can see the fruit of her consistency, her patience, and her loving authority in her children’s lives.
Now, I had to choose how I was going to respond to this mother’s maturity. There are a few sinful, and sadly well-worn options:
Option #1: Feel sorry for myself. I’m a terrible mom. I’m a complete failure. What hope is there for my children? I try so hard but I always seem to fall short. I’ll never be as good a mom as she is. (All sputtered, in between sobs, to my long-suffering husband.)
Option #2: Make excuses. Well, of course she is a good mom. She has so many more advantages than I do, and she doesn’t have the unique challenges to deal with. If only my situation was more like hers, then I would probably be doing even better than she is—by far.
Option #3: Judge and Resent. She probably thinks she is better than me. I just don’t think I can hang around someone who makes me feel so inferior. I need to be with people who are real about their weaknesses and failures, just like me.
Or, there is a better, biblical way….
Option #4: Give Thanks and Learn. Thank you God for bringing this woman into my life. Thank you for the way that she gives glory to you. Thank you for the way that her children are bringing glory to your name. I pray that you would bless her. And I pray that you would help me to learn from her. Please help me to be more consistent, more patient, more loving toward my children, for their good and your glory. Thank you for this woman who provokes and stirs me up “to love and good works” (Heb 10:24). Help me to grow, by your grace. In Jesus’ mighty name, Amen.
And then give her a call, ask her out for coffee, and take good notes.
Now that’s a better option.