Apr 28

Service Over Self

2009 at 4:48 pm   |   by Carolyn Mahaney

Popular wisdom would say that once you reach mid-life, it is a time to consider yourself. You’ve been giving so much for so long, they say, it’s time to take care of you! But this flies in the face of God’s plan. The middle and later years of our lives are not for self but to serve. So let’s do something truly radical and shocking in the eyes of the world, ladies—instead of focusing on ourselves, let’s serve more!

And let’s begin with our families. Although their needs may be different, our family should still receive our first and best service.

Are you married? The demands of children can sometimes sap life from a marriage. We can be tempted to settle in and become comfortable in our routines, instead of pursuing romance, friendship, and growth in godliness together. But we should prize our husbands more than ever in this changing season.

Are you a mother? Our children still need us, even when they are grown. And while our role will certainly be different, we can still serve them in many ways—not the least of which is to pray for them. Lets consider how we can encourage, serve and be available for our kids.

Are you a grandmother? I probably don’t need to convince you to be involved in your grandchildren’s lives. But can I encourage you to be strategic? Set a godly example they can follow. Pray for them. Encourage them to obey their parents. Babysit. Ask their your kids how you can best come alongside and support their parenting efforts.

By the grace of God, let us use this season to serve our family and so follow the example of our Savior who “came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45)