“[Feminism] is mixed up with a muddled idea that women are free when they serve their employers but slaves when they help their husbands.” “.—G.K. Chesterton, The Collected Works of G.K. Chesterton, vol. 4, p. 440
“Sisters, if you repeatedly attempt to control the man in your life, and if you disrespect him and the decisions he makes, you will get nothing for it but neglect and emotional abandonment. It is another of those mysterious paradoxes. There are plenty of witnesses to this truth all around—women who dismiss the biblical admonition, ‘let the wife see [to it] that she respects her husband’ (Ephesians 5:33). Instead, they try to their ever-loving’ frustration to get their man to do what they think he should do—about every matter under the sun. But here is the thing: men naturally chafe and eventually flee from direct instruction from their wives. They do not change when you tell them to. And they never, ever will. When you turn up the volume, you tune out the man.
Instead, try indirect instruction….This is the way of a woman with a man. She teaches him primarily by example. When needed, she may appeal to his thoughtfulness and ask for his consideration, but she will not go further. He will be far more apt to give consideration to her words when they are heard as an appeal or a suggestion rather than as a directive. Think of it as the difference between casting a flashlight down the path versus pointing it in his face. Direct light causes us to close our eyes. Indirect light, pointed away from our eyes, causes us to strain to see.” —John Ensor, Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart, p. 99
“Our natural reason looks at marriage and turns up its nose and says, ‘Alas! Must I rock the baby? wash its diapers? make its bed? smell its stench? stay at nights with it? take care of it when it cries? heal its rashes and sores? and on top of that care for my spouse, provide labor at my trade, take care of this and take care of that? do this and do that? and endure this and endure that? Why should I make such a prisoner of myself?’
What then does Christian faith say to this? It opens its eyes, looks upon all these insignificant, distasteful and despised duties in the spirit, and is aware that they are all adorned with divine approval as with the costliest gold and jewels.
Its says, ‘O God, I confess I am not worthy to rock that little babe or wash its diapers, or to be entrusted with the care of a child and its mother. How is it that I without any merit have come to this distinction of being certain that I am serving thy creature and thy most precious will? Oh, how gladly will I do so. Though the duty should be even more insignificant and despised, neither frost nor heat, neither drudgery nor labor will distress me for I am certain that it is thus pleasing in thy sight.’”—Martin Luther qtd. in The Shaping of a Christian Family by Elisabeth Elliot, p. 87
“Marriage is a vocation. It is a task to which you are called. If it is a task, it means you work at it. It is not something which happens. You hear the call, you answer, you accept the task, you enter into it willingly and eagerly, you commit yourself to its disciplines and responsibilities and limitations and privileges and joys. You concentrate on it, giving yourself to it day after day in a lifelong Yes.”—Elisabeth Elliot, Let Me Be a Woman, p. 102
We’re going to do something a little different this year. On past vacations, we’ve posted one picture a day, but 52home is going on vacation too. So instead, we’re going to share some comments from a few of our favorite authors on biblical womanhood. We’ll kick things off with our friend John Piper from his book on Ruth:
“Here we have a picture of God’s ideal woman…Faith in God that sees beyond present bitter setbacks. Freedom from the securities and comforts of the world. Courage to venture into the unknown and the strange. Radical commitment in the relationships appointed by God….This is the woman of Proverbs 31:25 who looks into the future with confidence in God and laughs at the coming troubles: “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.” Ruth is one of “the holy women who hoped in God…[and did] not fear anything that is frightening” (1 Peter 3:5-6). It is a beautiful thing to watch a woman like this serve Christ with courage….Whatever else the great women of faith doubted, they never doubted that God governed every part of their lives and that nothing could stay his hand…Nothing—from toothpdicks to tyrants—is ultimately self-determining. Everything serves (willingly or not) the “purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will” (Eph. 1:11). God is the all-encompassing, all-pervading, all-governing reality.”—John Piper, A Sweet and Bitter Providence, p. 35, 44
This morning, there was an earthquake here in Washington, DC. Crazy! There was a loud rumble that reached some sort of crescendo and shook things up a bit. I guess that’s what 3.7 feels like.
Of course, it was nothing compared to the earthquakes many of y’all have experienced; but for DC locals, it was “breaking news.”
I thought it was funny to learn how each member of our family reacted. Keep in mind that it was 5:04 a.m.
Me – I immediately thought: “earthquake.” But then I didn’t think we could get those around here.
Mike- Was sure his worst fears had come true, and that one of the huge trees in our yard had finally fallen on the house.
Caly- Woke up screaming bloody murder and wondering why the house was “wiggling.”
Mom – “DC has been bombed!”
Dad – Like father, like daughter, he thought earthquake.
Chad – Zzzzzzz…
Kristin – Zzzzzzz…
Brian – “Wow, that was some loud thunder.”
Steve – told Nicole it was the train near their house. Tough day for him, as he prides himself on knowing about things like earthquakes. Maybe next time, Stevie!
Nicole – Didn’t remember the train ever shaking the house like that before. She thinks every loud rumble is a bomb or an earthquake. For once, she was right.
Did I mention that Chad and Kristin slept right through it?
All right, to be fair, Kristin had a very late meeting last night. And Chad, well, Chad is a teenage boy.
Ok, we’re off to Tennesse this weekend, but check back Monday to see what we have planned for the next two weeks.
Janelle for the girltalkers
You know you have kids when you tell people that you will be leaving for vacation in “3 sleepies.” Obviously, we are on countdown here at the Bradshaw household; we’ll be heading to Tennessee on Sunday with the whole Mahaney clan.
If you are planning to take a vacation, and like me, need to prepare to serve others and glorify God, here are a few links from the girltalk and cheap seats archives you might find helpful:
First, check out my dad’s three part series on leadership and family vacations. You can leave it up on your computer screen for when your husband “happens” to walk by.
Then, for some easy vacation cooking ideas, you might like these recipes.
If you need a reminder to keep fighting remaining sin—which doesn’t take a vacation—this post by Nicole will encourage you to prepare accordingly.
You definitely don’t want to forget to make wonderful memories. Read about that here.
And the hardest part of vacation—coming home. This post will help ease you into normal life again.
I hope this little sampling serves you as you prepare for your trip. I’m signing off, because I only have 3 more sleepies to get ready!
